Guest Post By Briana Marie at majorleaguemommy.com
Children develop many key skills early on in childhood. During this time, they are taking in lots of information to help their brains develop which can directly affect their experiences as an adult. With that being said, it is super important for parents to take charge in helping their little ones develop and grow. One key area that we should focus on developing in our children is self-esteem.
Developing healthy levels of self-esteem in your child will quite naturally improve their life experiences. No matter how young or old your child is, there are a few things that you can do to help boost their self-esteem. Check out these 9 simple steps to boost your child’s self-esteem like a pro.
1. Communicate to them that mistakes are normal– No one is perfect and we all tend to learn this early on. Be mindful of how you react to your child when they make a mistake. If you yell at them and freak out the moment they spill their juice or if you are constantly fussing at them for doing something wrong, you could really damage their self-esteem. Mistakes are part of the learning process. Communicate this to your child and assist them in correcting their errors.
2. Allow your children to have options– We want children to recognize early on that they have their own voice and opinions. Give them different options and let them choose on their own. Maybe set a few outfits out for them for the day and let them choose which one they would like to wear. Give them options for breakfast and let them choose. Let them in on planning that family trip and have them choose a destination. There are so many ways to incorporate this concept into your routine.
3. Reward your child for a job well-done– A reward doesn’t necessarily have to be your child’s favorite snack or a new toy. You can reward your child for doing something well just by telling them “Good Job. I really like how you _____.” We want to encourage our children to feel proud of their accomplishments.
4. Consider your child’s feelings– Kids can sometimes do things to really upset us parents but, you should never put your child down or make them feel bad about themselves. You should always consider your child’s feelings. If they did something to upset you, take a deep breath, then address the issue. Let your child know that you are not pleased with their actions and communicate to them what you would like for them to do differently next time. Also, let them know exactly what the consequences of their actions will be. There may be some tears but it’s temporary and ultimately this type of communication will help further develop and boost your child’s self-esteem.
5. Never compare your child to others– Never, Never, NEVER compare your child to others. We are all unique and have our own unique experiences and we should communicate this idea to our children early on. Encourage individuality in your child. Sure your child may be struggling in one area that you see other kids advancing in. Sure you may see qualities in other children that you admire. Whatever the case, there is no need to ever compare your child to someone else. Instead, focus on what makes them unique. Focus on their strengths. Focus on how you can improve other areas of their development.
6. Spend quality time together– Make spending quality time with your child a priority. Children love getting that special attention from their parents. You can learn so much about each other just by going for that walk and having a conversation or doing another bonding activity. This is a great way to show your child that you are present and interested in what’s going on in their world. It’s a great feeling to just know that someone cares.
7. Assign chores and other responsibilities– Even young children can have chores or other responsibilities given to them. Let your little one do the dusting, clean their room, or help feed the family pet. Older children can help with cleaning around the house, caring for the yard, or helping with dinner. There is quite a long list of different chores you can assign to your child. Find what works best for your household. Giving a child their own chores makes them feel like part of the team which does wonders for self-esteem. It also helps to develop discipline which is an added bonus.
8. Teach your child manners and proper social skills– Teach your child how to effectively communicate with others and use good manners. Make sure they know how to properly introduce themselves to others, hold the door for people behind them, how to greet guests, etc. If children know how to properly communicate and interact with others, it will ultimately help improve their confidence.
9. Lead by example– Let your high self-esteem show! If you are struggling in the area of self-esteem and self-confidence, work on it alongside your child. Make use of positive self-talk, celebrate your wins, and show that you value yourself.
As parents, we have a very important job. Raising happy, healthy, and confident children should be a priority. All children are unique and ultimately you will find that not all ideas work the same for every child. However, using the tips above, you are sure to kick start the development of healthy self-esteem in your child.
Briana Marie is a Mom of 2 joyful little girls and blogger over at majorleaguemommy.com. Briana is all about Effective Parenting made FUN. She also teaches other parents to develop their child’s self-confidence by helping their kids create their own small business. You can download her Free eBook: 50 Small Business Ideas for Kids to start working on your child’s small business today.