Mommy shaming is something that we’ve all heard or read about. It’s something I’ve always found really annoying, because in my opinion no one knows what’s best for YOUR child except YOU. Lately it seems that everyone has an opinion on what’s best for your child.
Today after we got to our hotel in Chicago, I had to go back to our car to get diapers and formula. After gathering the items I needed, I got into the elevator to head back to our hotel room. An older woman walked onto the elevator after me, looked at me and said, “Breast is best”.
While I completely understand that it has been medically proven that breastfeeding is better for babies, not everyone is able to breastfeed. And I shouldn’t have to explain my reasons to strangers who decide to stick their noses in how I personally raise my child.
Shouldn’t FED be best? Whether that be formula or breastmilk?
I TRIED to breastfeed. I knew there was a possibility I wouldn’t be able to due to a surgery to remove a tumor I’d had a few years ago. There’s no way of knowing if your milk ducts have been damaged until you actually try to breastfeed. I tried. I tried hard. I tried for the first month of Madison’s life and she only gained 6 ounces post the weight she was when she left the hospital. At a month old she was still not back to her birth weight. I was starving my baby and I couldn’t bare to continue to do that. At the recommendation of my doctor, I switched her to formula.
This is something that has worked best for US. It does not work for everyone. Every mother and child has their own unique situation. Mother’s shouldn’t be shamed on how they choose to fed their babies. Shouldn’t we be receiving support instead for doing what’s best for our children?
It seems like everytime I log into Facebook there is a new article circulating on how a mother was shamed. Whether it be with breastfeeding in public, choosing formula, allowing your baby to have a pacifier, the types of diapers you use and the list can go on and on and on. When did we become people who only accept one way as the right way? It blows my mind that it’s 2016 and people still don’t realize that different ways work for different people. It doesn’t make anyone right or wrong. As long as the child is healthy we should all be happy.